Is Al Anon still applicable to me if I'm no longer in a relationship wtih my ABF?
Yes. The tools you get in Al-Anon are applicable regardless of whether you're in a relationship with an A or not. The damage an alcoholic relationship does tends to stick with you, and it's healthy to get help navigating it.
Never been to a CODA meeting, so I can't help you there.
The guilt? Guilt is a useless emotion. It's purpose is to tell you that you've done something wrong. You haven't done anything wrong. So tell that guilt to go bugger off. And enjoy the trip with your mom!!!
