My ex used to just say a larger scale version of the things he said sober. Apparently he was 'out of control' when he got that wasted.. But not so out of control that he would attack strangers or tell other women all the awful things he said to me. Not so out of control he couldn't stop dead and make me look like the insane one if a visitor knocked at the door. Never so out of control he would hit or scratch my face where it would show.. Only my arms or body. Weird kind of out of control of you ask me.