And he leans on me for everything and it results in me carrying the entire burden of helping our relationship through this unstable time. He looks to me for the answers he should find within himself, but of course, like most people - I feel the compulsion to help him and make suggestions.
He leans on you because you are his codependent. His problem needs your problem to thrive. Learning about codependent behavior can help. You can't do anything for his issues but you CAN work on yours. That can indirectly help him if his problems can't rely on you to feed it.
Maybe a year ago I would have felt it was my job to show him these websites and encourage him to go to AA but I am realizing I can't hold his hand through this anymore.
Good for you! Sounds like you are gaining awareness. What a great first step! You are WAY ahead of the game from where I was when I realized my AW's problems. Take care of yourself, you deserve it!