Oh ps, my actual birthday was at the end of May and I had a small get together with a couple friends and our kids at my house-- it was mellow, low key and fine.
D6 wrote me the best letter EVER for my birthday and the girls (with my mom's help) framed a picture that D6 drew of she, myself and D4 that I love...
D6's letter by the way is as follows (with her spelling as it was written)
"Dear Mommy, I love you very, vry vry much. I will love you frever. I wish you cood com to scool with me ever day. I love wen you drop me off at scool evry morning. It makes my hart full of love. I love you forevr Mommy. You are the best Mommy."
That letter was the best gift EVER. Nothing (okay maybe a letter from D4 someday will tie!) will ever be better than that!
So, I had an amazing birthday already and perhaps AH is just bent out of shape that I in no way asked him or wanted him to be a part of it and so he has to force himself on me.