In a real healthy relationship....
I'd be able to ask my husband why he didn't take out the trash or turn the hose off without feeling like I was being a nag or trying to cause trouble. Anyone care to add? I'm just feeling funky right now, coming home after being away for 4 days to find that he couldn't even take out the trash because he's depressed because he's on house arrest and I'm sure that would be his excuse. Yet, he was able to get out to a doctor appointment this AM to get his Paxil refilled where I'm sure he told his doctor that he's hunky dory doing great and please just refill my drugs, thanks!
Sorry, I'm being angry. Better I do it here than in his face because that won't get me anywhere!