You know that there are many things here that you are not seeing: For one you went out seeking SOBRIETY not a man. And obviously there is something more important to this man than you and that's HIS sobriety. You need to snap and see that your addiction is trying to distract you and think that you are in love with this man. What you are probably in love with is HIS SOBRIETY. What is it - Do you think that he his going to help you get sober? Cause the answer to that question is NO ONE can get you sober BUT YOURSELF. You are not only jeapordizing your sobriety by inviting feelings of rejection but YOU are also jeapordizing HIS sobrietyand your ex sponsors sobriety. The stress of not knowing how to make you see that he is just not interested in you at this time can be a trigger for him. C'mon now think of all the hard work it takes to stay sober. Almost anything can trigger someone. Back off of him and you need to find your sobriety instead of gazing and coveting other peoples sobriety. No one can't do it for you. And the poor sponsor that you had no respect for by even making advances to her ex mate is totally heartless....she tried to help you and you might have just thrown her off the boat. Be considerate of others and their struggle to stay sober. Really you need to read the twelve steps. Good luck.