((JellyBean)) - Welcome to SR though I'm sorry for what has brought you here.
Though I didn't marry any of my XABFs, nor have kids, our stories are somewhat similar. I just want to caution you, because of what *I* did. I was stressed due to the ex's alcoholism (and codependency, in restrospect) and started drinking to "put up or keep up" with him. I was a nurse. In time, I figured a pill, here or there, would make me feel better, I'd be more able to deal with it.
I became an addict, went from opiates to crack and lost my nursing career. I was educated, thought I knew better, it would never happen to me. I am not knocking the medical profession, at all. In fact, am back in school and getting a degree in another area - one that involves no patient care. I just know, for me, the years of treating this and that with medication...somewhere along the way, it became an option for me to "treat myself" with really bad results.
SR has been a HUGE part of my recoveries - from addiction and codependency. I wish I had found it earlier.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy