Welcome to the SR family!
Thank you for taking the time to introduce yourself. I hope you will continue to read and post as much as needed.
You are not alone!
While I was living with my loved ones active alcoholism, I followed the steps in a post I found here at SR. The steps helped me find a better way. I will send you the link to the post that helped me:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html