Include me in the legions of self-taught ex you know whats. Like soberlicious, I had quit using my own thought exercises of separation from my urge, realization that no thinking man would continue to drink in my situation, and that I was able to quit, and by gum, I would. So I did.
I did read the section in Trimpey's book about friends and family, and it is pretty hard line in its approach. Come to think of it, this is more or less what I was told those 10 months ago.
Give it a good read, and Good Luck.