My stb ex ah used to say the same thing. Now his disease has progressed to the point that his words are so delusional, so far out there, that they don't even evoke the slightest emotion. He sent a hateful email in which he blamed everything on me, even calling me a sociopath (really? Who killed the pet fish? Ran away to mommy in Puerto Rico without telling the kids goodbye?). In this same email, he claims to be sober. I'm just going ummm, ok.
I wish I had known years ago that the manipulations I fell for were coming from the same place as the insane, not even slightly believable drivel he spews today. This stuff is so ridiculous that it couldn't get under my skin even if I wanted it to.