Hugs to you sanity... Adjusting to life without them is hard, and very grief filled. The key to moving forward... Much like crossing monkey bars... Is letting go, reaching forward and having faith that there is something better waiting for you to grab hold of.
As for the "neighborly" treatment... It SUCKS!!! I have come to understand that is their coping mechanism. My XAH basically ignores me or treats me like some stranger... And it has nothing to do with me. That how he chooses to keep the pain at bay - by pretending I don't exist. It's really quite sad for him. He and his family have chosen to cut (literally!!) me out of every family picture (yet still leave them up!)... Bizarre and unhealthy, but it's because they are hurting and don't know how to grieve like emotionally healthy adults.
You are doing fabulous... Way to put those fixing skills to good use... On you
