He tries to make me feel guilty for leaving but in reality it is and was his behavior and actions that caused me to leave.
An addict's best defense is to keep us off balance. They often do this using Fear Obligation and Guilt (the ol' FOG thing again). Their manipulations often keep us in a F.O.G.
When I deal with my feelings and acknowledge what I am feeling, I can often tell when I am feeling fear, obligation or guilt. Those are three feelings that I couldn't recognize for a really long time. I found that I often would react to those feelings to make them STOP because they were so uncomfortable
for me and since I couldn't recognize the feelings......my reactions were usually inappropriate. This is what manipulation is made of.....fear, obligation and guilt. Make someone feel uncomfortable enough with those feelings and you can get them to do just about anything. And an addict knows this.
Take care of you.
gentle hugs
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