This was helpful for me to read today as I dealt first thing in the morning with a rude message from XAH. Usually I take the high road and don't respond but I admit this time I gave a piece of my mind. I stayed silent around him for so long, being afraid of what he would do if I spoke up. I was actually shaky after writing back to him. Turns out I'm fine now! He wrote back some typical A blame/projection/victim quackery and I'm doing a pretty good job of brushing it off! I can see that he is delusional and that's his problem. I could keep being pissed off - but why waste my energy on that? He is just acting the way most A's seem to behave so I don't expect any different. I wish I didn't have to deal with him at all! I just pride myself on the fact that I was strong enough to leave him 6 months ago. And life is so much calmer in general. I actually LIKE going home to my mom's! No more of that gut-wrenching anxiety about what could be waiting for me at home
