when I was dealing with my now ex ah ~ it didn't matter if he was still under the influence or "coming down" ~ the behaviors were still the same ~
irritable, irrational, delussional and argumentative ~ and mainly very unpleasant to be around. . .
In recovery, I learned I could set some boundaries about not being in my presence if he was going to use/drink . . . he wouldn't adhere to the boundaries he agreed to sober, which eventually lead to me choosing to leave our home at first when he would be under the influence - then I chose to leave permanently ~
Just my e, s, & h ~
PINK HUGS,
Rita