Just my opinion. xanaax is not a poor choice and you dont "catch a buzz" from it or ambian. I have been sober 29 years and prescribed meds which i need. Just my opinion; sounds like he completely lost his foundation of alcoholism recovery and is now "insane". Please take care of YOURSELF. Thats the MOST important thing. I am a "fixer " too. I had to separate from the people i wanted to fix. Let go of that behavior quick. I wish you the best.