I'm sorry you are dealing with this, yes it sucks. My AH was sober(without any program) for 15 years. Well, he was dry, not really sober but he had truly stayed away from alcohol for 15 years. Then, his depression crept up, then he started drinking while I was away for weekends, then he started drinking at home at night when I was asleep, etc. It's a vicious cycle and alcoholics must remain vigilant every single day to stay away from the booze, prescription meds, etc. Keep coming back to SR, lots of great advice to be heard.