Talk to people before and after the meeting and tell them what you are going through. Are you working the steps?
The only thing alcoholics do in moderation is work the steps. The problem is, we need a new solution and it doesn't have to be done thoroughly the first time, a fearless first time through is in order, then work them more slowly a second time and third....and....
Get more numbers. And have a heart to heart with your sponsor. Sounds like she was caught up in her fun and didn't hear you properly. Help a newcomer, too.
Hugs,