(((( can't stop crying))) I really feel for you. Go to the archives forum and read the Addictive Personality by Pernell Johnson. It's helped me understand so much more than I did. I'm still struggling with detachment and trying to think with my head and not my heart. I have to let go of my emotions and really try to understand what my A is going through so I can do the right thing for him and for myself. The right thing for him may be to let him go so he can find recovery... or not. It's not my choice. It's his.
We may be women but we know what you're going through. Please keep posting.
