schoyck

Hello all,

Two days ago I got off work and came home and found my girlfriend in bed bawling her eyes out. When I asked her what was going on, she became more upset and said "I have something to tell you, I'm addicted to k2," and continued to tell me how she gets it and when she does it and all of that. For a little bit of background information, she is active duty military and is stationed about 3 hours from home so she only is able to come home on the weekends, and every week on my days off of work I stay with her on base. The only reason she told me about her problem that night is because at some point in the evening she lost her supply and couldn't find it. As she was telling me about her problem I watched her frantically search her pockets and jacket and anywhere she thought it might be. Then she said that she had a little bit in her car that would be just enough to get her high, and wanted me to take her to her car. Obviously I said no, because for one thing I cannot be around those types of substances, I am in the law enforcement field of work, and for another thing I just don't want these substances in my life or in my girlfriend's life for that matter. The next day (yesterday), we continued to talk about her problem, and as I took her to get her car I got out and made her give me all of the k2 she had. When we got home, I made her flush it down the toilet. I told her that I cannot and will not be around this type of thing and that I cannot afford to lose my job because that is what will support us when she gets out of the military. She insisted that she would quit and promised me that she won't buy it or smoke it again. I want to believe her, I really do, but I also know that addiction is a really bad thing and there is a good chance that she will break that promise. I did not give her an ultimatum (me or the k2) because I don't want to lose her in the sense of a relationship but at the same time I don't want to lose her in the sense of the addiction, if that makes sense. I guess really my question is how do I be supportive to her and help her work through this. I spoke with a recovering addict last night who has been clean for 7 years who told me that as bad as I want to, I can't be her savior or her knight in shining armor - she will have to want to quit, and I know that. It will have to come from within her. I am just so worried about her and this is literally eating me alive. I can't sleep or eat anything and am just stressed out to the max. Any comments or insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you