Thank you SOOO much for this post. Even though I left my AH a year ago, I still haven't bounded back. Of course, maybe it has something to do with the $5,000 in back rent and the more than $10,000 I had in savings when we first met, dwindled away. I now understand that I had a willingness to believe in his fantasy version of finances (it was SO much easier!), but I also realize that the damage caused (and I'm talking not just financial) is gonna need some outside help.
I will deifnitely check these sites out! Thanks for realizing this is such a common problem for many of us!