Originally Posted by
anwa 
He is relying on me for his happiness. That's a huge burden.
.....and an enormously unfair burden. Love is not need. I love my husband and he loves me, but we don't need each other to ultimately be happy. It's an inside job.
It is not "mean" to consider your own happiness and to consider what is best for you.
Is it fair for you to give up your entire life and every last ounce of happiness to support him so that HE will be happy? I don't know how you would answer that question, but I would say no.
Is it fair that you worry, fret, pace the floor because of his addiction when it's clear that he is not ready to be done yet? Again, I would say no.
I hope you will come to realize that you are a person worthy of happiness, peace, and true joy!