My first meeting I realized that my AH and I didn't have a chance if I didn't engage. Shearly for awareness itself. I know that despite the fact that my AH left me, I need to work out the pieces that are my responsibility. I work on me and he works on him. I needed to hear and understand that I didn't cause it and I cannot cure it.
I can honestly say that the first meeting scared the crap out of me. But I know I am not alone in the process. If the first place you go doesnt sit quite right, do go to other meeting locations. You will fall into a place where you feel comfortable. Do keep going back..it works if you work it.