Welcome to the family Bulldawger. It wouldn't have mattered who told me to quit, I couldn't have done it until I was ready. I lacked the courage to change for many years, and did a lot of damage as I tried to control the amounts I drank. I hope you feel ready to stop, since obviously it's making you miserable.
As DisplacedGRITS mentioned, meetings might help. I wonder if your husband would consider Al-Anon? That helps explain to the 'normies' what we go through. They can never completely get us, but it does help.