why is this getting to me today?
Anyone else go through ups and downs of finding it easy and then hard again to not react to your A's nonsense?
I set a boundary with AH. Told him he is welcome to do whatever he likes, but that when X occurs, I will do Y and that he ought not expect that he will get his way as he did in the past.
Instantly I get accused of "coercing", "controlling" and "dictating" and get told that it is indicative of an ABUSER (ha ha ha ha ha) to tell him that "unless he does X, I will do Y".
Amazing how they twist reasonable statements into distortions that make them a victim.
For some reason today it's gotten to me more than it has in a long time...
Thanks for listening.