"Another question though. After all his garbage that he is posting on Facebook his family apparently has been trying to unsuccessfully reach him. Now, his neice is texting me asking if he is okay, and wondering why he isn't returning her texts. What should I do on this? I don't want to start a gossip train, because she will probably tell her mom/dad if I mention his state who will then tell everyone on his side. I'm sure they suspect it anyway, but I don't want to directly be involved in it."
If you don't want to be involved, DO NOT answer the message or text. I personally made that mistake. What a can of worms. Found out after the fact the XA was actually behind all the messaging, as in texting from his brother's phone.
And I am still a strong believer, in " blood is thicker than water". Just best to keep your distance.
Congrats on making the decision to take back your life. I'm rooting for you, best wishes.