Lofty you hit it right on the head when you said it drives me nuts when my husband brings the guys home for a p*ss up . I have no right to say anything about it he is totally entitled to do it , I am the one with the problem here not him. I love my husband with all my heart. I am the one who needs to look within and grow. My drinking was also destroying my marriage before and I was on a warning so there is more than my health at stake.