Thanks everyone for your responses! It means alot. Yes, I am very much working my own program and going to meetings as well as counseling with him and by myself. I am in a group therapy "Boundaries" class as well, so I am surrounded by tons of support and putting myself around 'right thinkers', IMO. He is also going to meetings (not as much as me, but I am a bit extreme). I refuse to live the codie life anymore. I have done it all of my life (father was an alcoholic) and now that I know a better way, I am all about it! I am even getting my Master's degree in Professional Counseling starting in the Fall. ALL of that, and I still have those days and deal with insecurity. Just goes to show you what a real 'number' addiction does on a loved one! Thanks for your posts! So very much!