Yes - I see that. I mean that I know he is mad and all that, but if he spends the night out of the house then he has gone too far. SO, I guess that a person who thinks they have the right to tell another person that they have to be home at a certain time is a codependent? I understand what you are saying, but in a way this codependent thing is that we all have different values and if I think it is wrong then it does not mean it is wrong for him. I understand that I will hate him when this is done. He left me that one time and that was it for me. He does not come home before morning and then I am going to change my way of thinking. I am pulling away big time. Detachment is coming. I cannot live with this.