My husband and I reconnected after 8 years.. Same magical stuff.. Found out after I married him he was addicted to crack..also found out he was addicted when we dated 8 years before.. This is way bigger than you.. Nothing you say, do, hope, love can make her stop until she wants to.. I rec the friends and family of substance abusers forum here at SR and another site crackreality.com my husband was,sober for a few years... He's now 40.. Until she fully commits to recovery things will only get worse... Like ur gf my AH is smart, made a lot of $$, educated. He has nothing now...