I know I am a manipulator. He just got interested in drinking and having friends at a bar and does not want to sit around at home with kids. He wants to be with us, but he wants to do what he wants. We used to have the same goals and that has changed. I have a feeling he will not come home tonight. He is going to teach me a good lesson and want to talk and work things out till he is sure I am scared and hurting and want him back. I cannot keep acting like this because it is not good for the kids or myself. I am willing to change. My mood will really be determined by when he calls or shows up. If he spends the night out of this house then I am going to be really mad and not sure when I will say he can come back. I am leaving the door unlocked and I think he will have his fun and drink till he probably passes out and then come home and if the door is unlocked he will go to bed and we will talk in the morning. If he does not come home then I am not sure how I will be tomorrow.