Brightlight - I have been accused of sending mixed messages. I agree and am trying very hard to be clear in my communication and to not make threats that I don't intend to carry out. It is really hard when our AH's words and actions keep us unbalanced. It is really important though. While I don't want to add to your burden, I think you may be doing the same thing. It takes one to know one. LOL Anyway, I am certainly not perfect in the way I communicate with my AH but I am getting better. SR and all the wonderful people here help me sort through the thoughts that whirl in my mind and as a result, I think I am making better decisions. Stay connected.