I applaud you for taking steps toward a healthier, happier you!
Alanon is a great resource for face to face support for YOU.
I took my children to an open Alanon meeting to hear a guest speaker. They came away with understanding that our family wasn't the only one. There are others just like us. I also offered to help them find and attend a local Alateen program. They declined attending Alateen at that time. My two older children are old enough to take themselves to Alanon meetings if they choose (20 and 23 years old)
How old are your children?
I ask because it may not be appropriate to take young children to a closed Alanon meeting.
The closed AA and Alanon meetings are where the work is done on ourselves. The open, honest sharing of how our life has been affected is done at the closed regular meetings. Some of the adult sharing may not be appropriate for young children.
Open AA and Alanon meetings are open to the friends and family of members to share in a meeting experience that includes a guest speaker. The guest speaker shares how their life was affected and how their 12 step work has helped them to recover.