I want to say THANKS for the suggesting reading material Eightball!! I have started reading Codepent No More. It has really opened my eyes and made me think about my situation. I have been highhlighting things like crazy! I will be telling hubby tonight that me and the kids are going to Al-Anon tomorrow. Not sure what he will say, how he will react, but frankly I don't care. He just has to understand what his drinking has/is doing to his family. He has the alcohol problem, not us. He has to see that and admit it on his own. In that respect, it isn't our problem...it's his. I'm feeling more and more empowered as each day passes. Thanks again!