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04-13-2012, 10:23 AM

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JerseyNonny

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Join Date: Nov 2010

Location: Brick, NJ

Posts: 83

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"you are as sick as your secret",

Someone beat me to this.

There was also the issue of co-dependency, which is a very strong motivator for continuing in a toxic relationship...and, it doesn't have to be something illegal that sends up those warning signs. If it hadn't been his illegal activities, it probably would have been something else. You are well rid of him.

But, as someone else put it, "Don't let him live rent free in your head." He's cheerfully going about his business enjoying the fruits of his ill-gotten gains, while you agonize over his stupidity/insensitivity.

You've physically detached from him...now, it's time to make a concentrated effort to do so emotionally. Get really involved in something worthwhile...something that will lift your spirits. Best of luck to you in your sobriety!!!