Terribly sorry that my post offends you, Faithfully, but sometimes being offended is a good thing. The title of your post is "I just can't take it anymore", yet your offense to several of our honest responses suggests that not only can take it, you must enjoy it as you are down-right offended when people agree with you that this man is using you. I stand firmly by my post and have recently, note i said recently, in my journey to get healthy from my own CoDependency, learned that it is actually sinful for us to NOT set boundaries and protect ourselves. God is the only reason I am on my way to a better life and free from the misery of the active addiction of my husband. Because of Him alone, my husband is in recovery (for now) and I am learning that I am not responsible for other people's feelings. I pray that you stay strong and put yourself first, honestly, I really do. CoDependency is misery! Ask me how I know?.