(((wtbh))) - back when I was young (a gazillion years ago), there was no internet, sleep-overs were a huge deal. My mom recognized when I was hurt over missing something I wanted to do, but she also spent extra time with me, we did "girl things". She died when she was 50 (my age now) but I have the most awesome memories of our "girl times". Maybe I didn't realize it at the time, but those are some of my most precious memories.
You didn't do anything wrong, the law system where you life is totally dysfunctional. It doesn't mean that you can't have "girl time" with your daughters. Trust me, whether they realize it now, they WILL realize that you are the rock in their foundation.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy