LTD- as I said, I can't blame the parents & would feel similarly I'm sure if I were in their shoes. So yes you're right that's it likely less about me than it feels. But given that I'm the one in the paper people know only that I'm the alleged attacker & it sucks.
None of the reasons for the not wanting to play really matter when it comes to telling my D's that they can't have friends over. That's the part that sucks. And as for playing at the other kids house- sure that would be great but it wasn't offered & I'm already feeling like a social pariah so I don't want to invite myself to others homes since the messages I received probably would have offered that if it were sonething the other parents desired
It is just crummy that my girls have to pay the price for their parents problems