Originally Posted by
stressedwife 
Of course, I'm sure he will come back at me with the problems I have..so be it. I know I have problems I have to work on for myself and I have admitted that to him. I'm doing the best I can right now. I'll let yall know how it goes.
I touched on this in my earlier post.
This is a classic alcoholic tactic, to make it about you.
I would suggest to my AH about cutting down to 21units per week as recommended and would be told that I was boring, lazy etc. If I talked about the money spent on beer, I would hear 'you spend money on your hair'. If they make it about you, pick at some of your 'faults' and you become all defensive, then they have taken to heat of themselves and the drinking.
I cant tell you how many 'nice' conversations (it makes me feel etc) started by me about my AH drinking that ended up becoming about me, right up to becoming verbally abusive. Ummm - ALL of them!
Please know this is not about you, your problems, working on yourself- that is a smoke screen.
As wanttobehealth rightly pointed out:
that is a sign that his alcoholism is far more pervasive than you might think it is.