Thank you wantobehealthy. I knew if I started coming here I would get good feedback! sometimes when you mull things over and over in your own mind you can't see things clearly. Voicing my thoughts here and get feedback from yall is a big help. It helps me see things more clearly...things I need to do. I usually grocery shop on Friday evenings so before then I will let him know I won't buy his beer anymore when I grocery shop, letting him know I think he has a real problem and I won't be a part of it. Of course, I'm sure he will come back at me with the problems I have..so be it. I know I have problems I have to work on for myself and I have admitted that to him. I'm doing the best I can right now. I'll let yall know how it goes.