Hi, so familiar sounding to all of us.
You can't help him quit! He won't unless he wants to himself, he doesn't want to.
You are living in chaos, a chaos that is tearing you up I am so sorry
Alanon meetings would be very beneficial, there are a ton of books that can be
to you. I am reading co dependent no more right now, it's amazingly helpful.
It's amazing to me that you have survived this for so long, you are very strong, please start using your strength to focus and begin healing your own pain.
Keep posting, you deserve to have peace in your life. xo K