It's an individual thing I think and we all have to work out where we stand, Olympia
I was pretty nonchalant in my early days with food too - but once I really started to value my sobriety, I changed my opinion and I try hard not to knowingly eat anything made with alcohol, or with alcohol in it etc. these days.
I know from experience, I'm very good at playing mind games with myself - I just prefer to take the grey areas out of the picture as much as possible
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