For me alfie...The one thing that summed up getting sober for me was CHANGE....That meant the people I hung around with...Places I went...Things I did. Then I found a recovery program that gave me the tools to properly deal with situations that might arise....where I need to be somewhere not ideal for me to be. Early sobriety....I had to avoid things...As I aquired these tools.....I was prepared to deal with them better. I don't go hunting down pubs or parties....But if I have to be at one for a legitimate reason....I can deal with that now.....And not worry about it.....Maybe should look into a program like that. Make some changes....That's what it's all about.