I hesitate to do this...but...ok here I go.
Originally Posted by
fourmaggie 
...now you have a baby involved...why did you two do that?....
This feels somewhat uncalled for. Questioning someone's past choices, whether it be marrying an addict or having a child (or many children) can't really bring them to any kind of realization or be particularly helpful. Heck, my own daughter was conceived under the threat of my XAH leaving me...not particularly glamorous but hey, there is it. The past is the past.