it's so hard to witness
the rescue team that is...
I realized after being with my ex for two years that he actually used recovery as his rescue team...to manage his using/consequences! (there are lots and lots of resources here in mpls...lots and lots of SLEs) I heard the phrase here on SR the "stable of enablers" wow...that one was hard to hear, because of the truth in it.
It doesn't have to be a conscious malicious act to be true...it is a truth in addiction.
Maybe soft landings mean less than hard attempts at recovery.
Keep learning!