Ive learn all of this:
Cant play the piano (me) when the lid is down.
I'm responsible for my own life.
Detachment is not detaching from the person whom we care about, but the agony of involvement.
Whose problem is it?
This is my life, is this where I want to be?
I was more alone with the alcoholic, than when I am without him.
Dont expect anything more out of the alcoholic than he is capable of, and he is not capable of anything.
Learning to forgive and let go or it will eat me up inside.
My sponsor told me to "Give the alcoholic the dignity to go to hell if they chose to and that is the only place they will go if they continue to drink. Alcoholism can take you places (hell) that you would never dream you'd go"