granted their emails scared me and made me question whether I am the one in the wrong
Absolutely not, they're gaslighting you.
but I calmed down enough to realize that their emails actually show that ah is violating the RO (there is a statement in it that he is to have no contact with me NOR have his family contact me in any way). so, my lawyer is getting copies of the emails and i have asked him (via voicemail bc he is not in yet) to deal with them today. maybe ah will be in jail before the day is out and i can breathe easy.
Do we have a cheerleading emoticon? I'm jumping up and down over here.