Originally Posted by
Skye10 
so am I just supposed to do nothing? Is this the only choice I have when it comes to someone I love who may be slowly dying?
Unfortunately you don't have the power to cure him. Many of us here have had to watch our own children continue to self-destruct (or seek recovery) after we have stopped enabling them. Is it difficult and painful? Yep-- by far the hardest thing I've ever done in my entire life. It's cost me a good part of my sanity and thousands of dollars before I accepted that I don't have any power to control the lives of others.