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Thank you for this thread. My RExAB has two sides as well. The sweet, loving, cute, generous, thoughtful, kind, side
And the lying, manipulative, self-hating, selfish, aloof side. And mean when he doesn't get his way.
ONLY DIFFERENCE. He is sober and in AA with a sponsor and therapist and has gone though the 12 steps and even has lead an AA meeting
So the alcohol/pills was just his band-aid to ease his pain and self hatred.
Take that away and we are left with a man who has low self esteem with a big ego. Although he may have a big heart his own "stuff" gets in the way and hurts himself and others
Just wanted you to hear of an example of how life most likely will be if and when he stops drinking.
BIG HUG