Its just a huge struggle for me and I actually feel GUILTY for not helping him.
If you were to give into your guilt by assisting him, you'd set him back.
The funny thing about the disease is we stay involved with an addict because we love them. We don't like seeing them suffer, or struggle. But bailing them out sends the wrong message. It enforces helplessness. Trust me on this; for a good chunk of 2011, I enabled my AXGF, and it didn't do her any good, or me. This is where you have to detach with love, and whatever is meant to happen will happen.
Remember: doing the right thing sometimes means doing something we don't necessarily want to do.
Best of luck.
ZoSo