Your son will benefit far more from a mom who lives a happy life solo than from a mom who lives an unhappy life with an alcoholic who is not in any kind of recovery. Don't get back together for your son. Do it for YOU. There are other ways to have male influence in his life. You want GOOD male influence, not a dry (or not) drunk.
That's the conclusion I finally came to also. My AXH was my children's father -- and the thought of taking away their father was a big one to struggle with.
But they're right of course. And you've sounded so good in his absence, skipper... Not trying to make decisions for you, but you sound like you want someone to give you permission to say "NO" to the whole idea of him moving back.
You have that permission -- you can give it to yourself, should you need it.
